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The Unlikability Index: 16 Traits That Are Turning Others Away

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First impressions are indelible, making it crucial to present your best self when encountering someone new. A user asked the forum, “Have you ever listened to someone talk for less than a minute and immediately felt you wouldn’t get along with them? What did they say?”

Here are the top responses.

I HEARD A COLLEAGUE TALKING DOWN TO SOMEONE

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“I heard a 20-year-old girl at my job trying to talk down to another guy because he’s in his 40s with no kids.

‘You’re 40 with no kids! What do you know about the world?’ in the most hateful tone. I’ve never spoken to her before and never will.”

MY DATE STARTED NAGGING ME

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“I was on a date once, and she just started nagging me. I mistakenly picked her up and had to listen to her talk about herself; whenever I’d get a word in, she’d neg.

I lost it when I felt like eating a cheese slice at the niche New York-style pizza place we went to. She said I had a bad taste in pizza and needed to start going to XYZ.

She started talking about the beer I chose and then joked with the waitress about me. Then she asked me if I wanted to move in, as her roommate was moving soon, and she was joking but not joking.”

WHEN PEOPLE BEGIN A CONVERSATION WITH A RACIST ASIAN JOKE

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“I’m Asian, and upon meeting me, for some reason, many people like to open up with a racist Asian joke and tell me that their Asian friend thinks the joke is hilarious. I have never ended up getting along with those people.”

THE PERSON TOLD ME IF I LOVED MUSIC, I WOULD NOT HAVE QUIT MY JOB

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“A friend introduced me to a stranger at a party and said we should get along great since we were both into music. The stranger was in a band, and I used to work as a sound/lighting tech.

He asked why I quit music, and I told him I got sick of working every weekend and making garbage pay. I enjoy far more as an attendant than a worker.

He responds: “Oh, you don’t love music. Which is ok; it’s just that if you loved music, you would have stuck it out. I couldn’t live without music; it’s just different.”

It took about 15 seconds of conversation to realize the dude was insufferable.”

SHE WAS A NARCISSIST, PATHOLOGICAL LIAR

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She was in a writer’s group. The comment was made that Finnigan’s Wake by James Joyce is a classically tricky book.

She said that she found it very easy. A friend of hers was a lecturer at a nearby famous university, and he often came to her for insights into Joyce’s work.

I immediately suspected a narcissist, pathological liar.”

CONSTANT ONE-UPMANSHIP

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“Went to class with a girl who said she never microwaved anything because of the radiation. I told her you got more radiation from eating a banana. “Oh, I don’t eat bananas,” she said, with a banana peel on her desk. I used it as an example because she had just eaten it!

She also told the people next to her she got an A on a test, with the test in front of them and that showing a D. And, of course, the one-upmanship.”

MY FRENCH TEACHER TOLD US – I DON’T LIKE ANY OF YOU

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“My old French teacher in 8th grade. It took her not even 5 minutes for us to hate her. “I don’t like any of you; I’m not your friend but a teacher to annoying brats. You’ll do as I say when I say it, and complainers get a 6 (Equivalent to an F) for this class.”

Her husband was a pretty cool guy, though.”

MY FRENCH TEACHER CALLED US ALL FAT

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“What is it with French teachers? In the 9th grade, we had a teacher from France teach at our suburban US school. We were well-behaved, honestly, but she HATED us!

She called us all fat, told us eating eggs for breakfast was a disgusting American thing, and would mock our pronunciation in such a mean way. It became comical. She got fired halfway through the semester.”

MY PHYSICS TEACHER SAID IT WAS IMPOSSIBLE TO GET AN ‘A’ IN HIS CLASS

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“We had a physics teacher who introduced himself and then immediately launched into this tirade of how it was ” impossible to get an A” in his class.

I said aloud, “So there’s no point in trying hard and doing your best work because it will be impossible to get an A, correct?”.

Everyone sat there in stunned silence, including the teacher, and he mumbled, ” Well, you should always still try to do your best work, and you might get an A.”

PEOPLE WHO DEFEND THE COMPANY OR HIGHER-UPS

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“I don’t like Company Men or people who defend the company and higher-ups. For example, in a meeting once, an experienced Company Man started ripping into someone who works in another department in front of everyone over a trivial thing that did not affect the Company Man.

After the meeting, I thought the person was rude, condescending, and unprofessional to a couple of coworkers. They started defending said behavior. It instantly turned me off.

Corporate agreed with me, and that person has since retired.”

HE WAS THE CEO’S NEPHEW

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“I worked with this dude who was the new CEO’s nephew. The nephew was a Marine who served in Iraq and was a little twitchy sometimes, but overall, he was a nice guy.

We took smoke breaks together, and one day, we were smoking in the parking lot, and I made a disrespectful comment about his uncle. He puffed and said, “Yeah, he’s bad. He has been all my life. I only play along because he gives me work.”

He lost his job before I got laid off (legal trouble involving car repo and firearms), but I appreciated the honesty.”

THE ASSISTANT PLANT MANAGER WAS A COMPLETE CONTROL FREAK

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“I worked in a factory where the assistant plant manager was a complete control freak. He would scream in your face for the most minor things, all around terrible.

His son worked there one summer and even said, “Yeah, Dad’s an idiot.”

A GUY AT WORK CALLED HIMSELF AN ALPHA MALE

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“Guy at work introduced himself as an alpha male who ‘sets the tone around here’ and has his ‘choice of fanny.’ I laughed in his face thinking it was a poor attempt at humor. He was dead serious.

He hasn’t spoken to me since, and I’m cool with that.”

SHE WANTED ME TO CARRY HER HYPOTHETICAL HEIR TWO MINUTES INTO THE CONVERSATION

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“I knew a lady who, upon meeting her, told me she was related to two people who signed the Declaration of Independence, which meant she had a vital bloodline that she couldn’t let die out.

I knew she was an idiot at that point. Still, she then went on to say that because her autistic brother died, she had to be the one to carry on the bloodline and give them her last name. She said she’d use a surrogate if her significant congenital disabilities wouldn’t let her conceive, staring hard at me with a weird smile.

Yes, she lore dumped her life and wanted me to carry her hypothetical heir in the two minutes after we met.”

MY HUSBAND’S BOSS’S WIFE QUESTIONED HER HUSBAND’S INTELLIGENCE

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“My husband’s new boss’s wife. We were talking about the men working hard because they do a physically demanding job, and she started talking about how “stupid her husband is” and just generally talking bad about his intelligence, which immediately put me off of her.

I thought the general rule was a united front in public, talk bad in private. Whenever I’m in her car, and we are alone, she talks about hot guys and other men that she finds attractive, like FREQUENTLY.

Maybe I’m broken, but I don’t look at other people sexually besides my husband, so I laugh awkwardly and change the subject.”

PEOPLE WHO SAY THINGS LIKE – I CALL IT AS I SEE IT

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“It’s usually the people who immediately just start saying things like, ‘I just call it as I see it,’ or, ‘I’m just being honest.’

Stuff like that is just how they justify themselves as being overly judgmental. The people proud of being brutally honest care more about the brutality than the honesty.”

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