In a situation where tensions run high, a sister finds herself facing an unexpected challenge. After selecting a wedding venue that is her stepsister’s dream location, accusations of venue theft arise. A user asked on the forum, “Am I wrong for telling my stepsister she can’t afford her dream wedding venue after she accused me of stealing it?”
Here is the full story!
WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW?
The original poster (F25) is going to get married next year. She’s been planning for six months and chose the wedding place early. Interestingly, it’s the same place her stepsister Lucy (F27) has always dreamed of getting married.
WHAT HAPPENED NEXT
When OP announced to the family that it was all finalized, Lucy (stepsister) flew off the handle. She called OP names for picking that venue which was her ideal wedding venue. OP understands her disappointment but thinks this reaction is over the top.
WHY DOES OP THINK THAT STEPSISTER IS OVERREACTING?
OP thinks that the step-sister is overreacting for no reason. “The venue is a very famous cultural landmark for hosting weddings for centuries. I loved the location for over a decade, and nothing is stopping Lucy from getting married there someday if she so wishes,” said OP.
Also, it’s an expensive venue that costs more than $100k, which everyone cannot afford.
OP’S STEP SISTER IS REALLY MAD
Lucy is furious at OP for choosing this venue. “Lucy yelled, accusing me of copying her wedding idea,” said OP.
OP TRIES TO CONVINCE HER STEPSISTER
The OP apologized and explained that getting married first doesn’t mean Lucy can’t use the venue later. OP even suggested cutting down the guest list from her father’s side so that there is less guest overlap. But nothing made Lucy feel better, and OP was called names like snake and backstabber.
OP EVENTUALLY LOST IT
Finally, the OP got frustrated and said, “What was I supposed to do? Not choose the venue I wanted in case you have an expensive wedding later? Come on, Lucy, be realistic.”
WHAT DID PARENTS SAY TO OP
Parents think OP was too harsh with her words and should apologize to Lucy. OP understands Lucy’s feelings, but Lucy has plenty of time to choose a wedding venue and should move on.
So OP is asking whether she is right or wrong. Here are some responses she got!
OP IS NOT WRONG
“My brother and his wife used the same venue I did. I couldn’t care less. The venue has about eight places you can get married on the premises anyway. I don’t see the big deal.”
STEP SISTER IS MAD OR JEALOUS
“I get the strong sense that your step sister is mad/jealous about the whole wedding and is focusing on the venue part because she knows how unjustifiable it will sound if she complains about the fact that you have an awesome partner and are getting a fancy expensive wedding and lots of attention.”
DON’T DO ANYTHING
“So you’re supposed to cancel your venue so she can have her imaginary wedding there? Hell, no. Don’t cancel, don’t trim. Don’t compromise. Don’t do anything to “keep the peace.” She’s completely unreasonable. Just do what you’re doing, and don’t apologize anymore. Do not engage, discuss, or argue with her.”
YOU SHOULD HAVE YOUR DREAM WEDDING
“She doesn’t have lifetime ‘dibs’ on a location for weddings. You ARE getting married soon, and you CAN afford that location, and you should be able to have your dream wedding just as much as she should be able to.”
REALITY OF LIMITED VENUES
“Most of my siblings and extended family have all used the same venue as I did. It never crossed my mind that a family member couldn’t use the same place as one before. It’s just the reality of limited venues.”
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