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Mom Demands Son Leaves The Job. Says, “You Should Understand, You Take Care Of Half-Sisters”. Should He Abide By It?

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Relationships thrive on expectations, but when those expectations change, problems can arise. One user asked a common question: “Am I wrong for being upset with my son for finding a job without telling me?”

Here’s the story from the beginning.

BACKSTORY

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The original poster (OP) lives with her husband and two daughters. She also has an 18-year-old son from her first marriage, who lives with them. The father is a pilot and travels a lot for work. The OP works from 3 pm to 8 pm, during which the son looks after his two younger half-sisters.

WHAT DID THE SON DO?

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He took a new job from 3 pm to 5 pm without informing the mother, knowing that his half-sisters would be left without a babysitter during these hours.

WHAT DOES THE SON SAY?

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The son says that his mother shouldn’t be surprised that he is trying to work to save money to be able to pay for himself. He says he needed the job and wouldn’t stay and watch his sisters for days on end, especially if he didn’t get paid for it.

WHAT DOES THE MOTHER(OP) SAY?

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The mother says her son lives with them for free without paying for anything other than his entertainment. The OP says, “I think he’s inconsiderate of my husband, and I struggle to provide for the family. This should mean something to him, but he acted selfishly.”

WHY IS A BABYSITTER NOT AN OPTION?

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According to the mother, a babysitter is not an option because “My daughters don’t want a babysitter. They’re both dealing with issues and are uncomfortable with a stranger at home. Besides that, my son decided to stay with them, and we didn’t ask him or anything.”

The OP asked whether I was wrong for being upset with my son for finding a job without telling me. According to most replies, she is wrong. Here are some of the responses she got –

YOUR SON ISN’T FREE CHILDCARE

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“You’re a jerk. He isn’t free child care. He has his own life he needs to live, and what he is doing is bettering himself for the future. You need a better plan than forcing your kid to babysit for no money.”

HE IS NOT THEIR PARENT

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“You are a jerk; the man is 18, he needs a job, and he doesn’t have any children; YOU have children. Stop relying on your son like he is your co-parent or partner. He is not. ”

HE NEEDS A JOB

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“Exactly!! He NEEDS a job. Even if he doesn’t need the money, the job economy is rough, and my friend recently graduated college with two degrees and has been struggling to find a job with his degrees. I couldn’t imagine how much harder that would be on someone who has NEVER had a job in general.

OP, you are wrong. I’ve been working since 16. Job interviewers have often said they like seeing how much experience I have with working, as hiring someone who has 0 job experience can be a risk to them. It also helps him gain independence because he’s 18 and won’t be living with his parents. Rentals also like seeing job history. His siblings are not his kids; no reason to watch them unpaid. ”

HE HAS TO START LIVING

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“Yes! OP is such a jerk. Her son has taken the initiative to be responsible and independent. How are these bad things? This is what all parents want for their children. He has a life to start living and cannot do that if he is expected to parent his siblings.”

HE IS NOT THEIR PROVIDER

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“Oh my god, no wonder he didn’t tell you. You are wrong, a million times over. I wish him well saving so he can get far away. Pay someone to watch your kids or change your schedule. He’s not their provider. ”

LET GO OF YOUR SON

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“You and your husband are huge jerks!! Be adults and find childcare for your daughters. YES, you need to PAY for child care. You cannot force your son to give up his life to care for your children. That’s the using part.

You two are FINANCIALLY ABUSIVE to YOUR SON by NOT paying him wages for the child care. And now that he is a legal adult, he is doing the best thing he can for HIMSELF by getting a job and an education to get away from you two. You cannot force him to take care of your children. That’s what your responsibility is as a parent. You owe him an apology and past wages, for that matter. Let go of your son.”

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