Smacked as a Child: Was it Worth It?

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Research shows that physical punishment, such as smacking, is ineffective and harmful to children’s development. Experts recommend more effective forms of discipline, such as time out, reasoning with the child, and taking away privileges.

A user asked the forum, “Were you smacked as a child, and what is your opinion on it now as a form of punishment?”

Here are some interesting responses.

BEING HIT WITH A SPOON DIDN’T WORK

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“Mom used to hit us with a wooden spoon or spatula. It didn’t work, though.

But timeouts worked. Are you telling me I have to sit in a chair for 10 minutes while everyone is playing? What fresh hell is that?”

I HAD A CORNER

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“I had a corner when I was about 3, and I remember saying goodbye to it when we moved. It was all tear-streaked because I would press my face against the wall as I cried. I wonder what the next people thought, haha.”

MY FATHER GAVE US TIMEOUTS

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“My dad would hit us, but I remember he stopped when we were young. My dad had full custody of us, and something must have changed for us kids around the age of 7 or 8 as he started using more timeouts.

The worst timeout was when he locked me in the car and forgot about me. A friend popped over to his house and asked why I was crying in the car. He forgot about me.”

TIMEOUTS IS A NEWER VERSION OF STANDING IN THE CORNER

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“What amuses me is the older people that make fun of the idea of timeouts. It’s an updated version of Standing in a Corner.”

MY MOM WOULD MAKE US SIT ON THE FLOOR AND HOLD HANDS

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“If me and my brothers would fight, my mom would make us sit on the floor and hold hands. It usually turned into us eventually laughing, but not always.”

I WASN’T ALLOWED TO USE TV OR PHONE

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“For me, it was that I couldn’t use the TV and phone. Never had something like timeout, though.”

I HAD TO FACE THE DOOR

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“I remember I had to face the door because there were no corners available, but there was a window in this door, and I was able to watch the TV in the reflection.”

I REMEMBER BEING BELTED WITH A WOODEN SPOON

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“Yeah. I remember being belted so hard with a wooden spoon that it left welts and bruises across the backs of my legs. I was four or five. Who does such a thing? But corporal punishment was common then.”

HE HATED ME

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“Nothing like getting woken up in the middle of the night and repeatedly slapped across the face for no apparent reason. He hated me.

I think he was smiling.”

WOODEN SPOON WASN’T EFFECTIVE

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“Wooden spoon. My mom carried it in her purse in case my sister or I started “acting up” in public, and she had no problem whipping that thing out and beating us with it in front of everyone.

It also didn’t work for us. We got used to the hand that led to the spoon, and eventually, we got used to the spoon too.

My opinion on it now -I don’t resent my mom for doing it, but I can say from first-hand experience that it’s ineffective.”

HITTING IN ANGER IS NOT A TEACHABLE PUNISHMENT

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“My mom tells a story about how I did something that annoyed her so badly that I had a welt on my behind the shape of her hand. She thinks it’s just this funny story to tell. No, Mom, that’s child abuse. Hitting out of anger is not even close to a teachable punishment.”

I WILL NEVER HIT MY KIDS

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“I only realized as an adult why I lied so much as a child and teenager, and it was because I knew from about three years of age what they’d do if I stepped out of line and it wasn’t having a chat about actions and consequences.

My parents often wondered why I told them so little about my life. I will never hit my kids. 11 years of parenting, and I’ve never done it.”

IT TEACHES KIDS THAT VIOLENCE IS THE ANSWER

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“Yes, and it is wrong. Children are taught that violence is the answer. Most kids want their parents involved in their lives and love positive support.”

IT TEACHES KIDS THAT HITTING IS OK

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“Nothing like corporal punishment to teach your child that it’s OK for people who say they will love and protect you also to hit you. And once those wires get crossed, it takes a lot of pain and therapy to uncross them.”

IT CONTRIBUTED TO MY ANXIETY PROBLEMS

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“I feel like it contributed to my anxiety problems that I still suffer from today. My younger brothers are also very nervous around our father and lack confidence. They don’t respect him; they fear him. I wouldn’t want that for my children.”

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