Many parents keep their children happy by satisfying their demands and giving them privileges. Too much lenience can spoil your kids and make them stubborn and aggressive. Parents may struggle to deal with their spoiled kids, but it is even more challenging if you are dealing with a relative’s kid who is spoilt.
An aunt who has had to look after her nieces and nephew asked the forum, “Am I wrong for calling my sister’s kid a spoiled, entitled brat?”
Here’s what happened.
THE BACKSTORY
The original poster (OP) is a 34-year-old woman with an older sister, Annie, who is 37 years old. Annie has three kids – Jacqueline (12, F), Jasmine (10, F), and Vincent (9, M).
“Out of her three kids, she makes it incredibly obvious that Vincent is her favorite. She never punishes him and always lets him get his way, and I’m assuming that is why he’s so entitled,” says OP.
ANNIE HAS BEEN STAYING WITH OP
Annie recently got divorced and has been staying with OP so that OP could help support her. “I watch her kids for free while she’s working, and it hasn’t been the easiest,” says OP.
LOOKING AFTER THE KIDS HAS NOT BEEN EASY
“I’m a stay-at-home mom with two kids (8, F, and 6, F), so when Annie’s at work, I’ll be watching over five kids. Jacqueline (Annie’s eldest) has been a big help, though. She’s well-mannered and always helps around the house,” says OP.
THE ISSUE
On Wednesday, OP was watching her kids while she was working. It was around lunch, and OP was going to make everyone peanut butter and jelly sandwiches.
“Jasmine came to me complaining about Vincent trying to rip up my daughter’s Uno cards after a match. I followed Jasmine over to her room where Vincent looked really angry and tried to tug some Uno cards out of my daughter’s hands,” explains OP.
OP TRIED TO REASON WITH VINCENT
OP asked Vincent why he was doing this, and he just burst into tears. “My daughter explained to me that they were just playing a match, and then Vincent ended up losing,” says OP.
OP tried to explain to Vincent that it was okay that he lost and that he could play more rounds to get better. But Vincent got mad and stormed out of the room.
VINCENT HAS ANGER ISSUES
“While babysitting him, I’ve noticed that he can’t stand losing, has anger issues (he tends to take it out on Jasmine), is extremely picky, and must get what he wants,” says OP.
WHAT DID VINCENT WANT OP TO DO?
OP continued working on the sandwiches because she thought Vincent should take some time to cool down. However, OP later found out that he wanted OP to yell at Jasmine and OP’s daughter. “Apparently, that’s what Annie does. Jacqueline told me this,” explains OP.
VINCENT CONTINUED TO MISBEHAVE AT LUNCH
When OP finished making lunch, she called all the kids to eat. “When Vincent came over, I expected him to be happy about lunch because I had everyone vote for something, and he voted for PB & J,” says OP.
Turns out, Vincent was not happy. “I had forgotten to cut the crust off. He started screaming at me that I should’ve cut the crust of the bread because I should know that he doesn’t like it,” says OP.
WHAT CAUSED OP TO LOSE IT?
OP tried to stay calm and told Vincent she would cut off the crust. Vincent said no and threw the plate with the sandwich on the wall.
OP was furious, and it looked like that 9-year-old was equally furious as she was. “I started yelling at him, but Jacqueline pulled him to their room before things could escalate further. The other kids ate while I cleaned up the glass and food on the floor,” explains OP.
WHAT DID ANNIE DO?
When Annie got home, OP told her she didn’t want to babysit her kids anymore unless she started paying. This was just one of the incidents and also the worst. Annie said no.
“This made me pretty mad, and I told her that her son was a spoiled, entitled brat. Annie just went to her room and shut the door and hasn’t spoken to me a lot since. Am I wrong,” asks OP
Here’s how people responded.
SHE SHOULD LOOK FOR ANOTHER BABYSITTER
“You are not wrong.
‘Annie said no.’
Lol. Annie can look for another babysitter and another home then.”
OP SHOULD HAVE APPROACHED THE SUBJECT WITH ANNIE IN A BETTER WAY
“The kid is a spoilt brat by the sounds of it. The confrontation with Annie could have been a little better based on how OP wrote out events. I’ll acknowledge that might not be exactly how it went down word for word, just the shorthand version.
Telling another mother their little angel is a little monster needs to be a subject carefully approached. I’m sure there must be plenty of parents who know they have a little monster but will still act offended at even the suggestion from others that they’re nothing short of angels.”
TELL HER SHE AND HER SON ARE NOT WELCOME ANYMORE
“While she’s at work, pack her and Vincent’s things waiting at the door. Tell her that she and her son are no longer welcome and she needs to leave with her son.
Leave the girls’ things alone.”
MAKE VINCENT GO TO DAYCARE
“The girls shouldn’t be punished for their brother’s behavior. They probably already get blamed a bunch. Make him go to daycare and let him and his mom see how long this behavior is acceptable there.”
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