Sometimes, a small action can say a lot in our everyday lives. Picture yourself at a restaurant, having a regular dinner with friends or family. You’re all having a good time, talking and laughing. Then, something unexpected happens. The bill comes, and you find out you have to pay for everyone there. A user asked on a forum, “Am I wrong for silently getting up and walking out of the restaurant during NYE dinner after I was told to pay for everyone at the table (my inlaws)?”
Here is the full episode!
WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW
The original poster(OP) is a 32-year-old woman. She got a lot of money from her mom, who passed away. She’s keeping this money in a different bank account because she has yet to figure out what she wants to do with it. She wants the money to be used wisely.
HER HUSBAND KEEP MAKING SUGGESTIONS REGARDING MONEY
OP noticed that her husband kept talking about the money she inherited and gave her many ideas about using it. Also, he’s been expecting her to pay for almost everything during the last few weeks.
WHAT HAPPENED NEXT?
On New Year’s Eve, OP and her husband went to dinner with his family. Everyone was having a good time until OP found out that she was expected to pay for everyone’s dinner.
WHAT DID OP’S MIL SAY?
Her husband’s mom even joked about paying for dinner out of OP’s “inheritance pocket.”
HOW DID OP REACTED?
OP tried to stay calm even though she was really angry. OP paid for her own food and left the restaurant without saying anything.
HOW DID THE FAMILY REACTED?
They yelled at OP, and even though her husband wanted her to come back, she just drove back home.
WHAT HUSBAND SAID TO OP AFTER COMING BACK HOME?
OP’shusband came back home at 3 a.m. and started yelling at her for not paying for dinner and accused her of humiliating him and his family.
He also said she was trying to get back at them for not helping her mom when she was sick, and she created a big problem between his family and him.
So OP is asking whether she is right or wrong. Here are some responses she got!
INLAWS ARE INSENSITIVE
“Your mother died after an illness, and what your in-laws take from this is, “Great, now she can pay for everything.”
IT IS YOUR DECISION WHAT TO DO WITH THAT MONEY.
“I’d tell your husband you’d much rather your mother around than the money, but he and his family trying to blindside you into spending it on them is disgusting that you plan on taking your time to decide what you want to do with that money and don’t want anything like this to occur again.”
GET AN ADVICE FROM LAWYER
“Good for her keeping it separate talk to a financial advisor and maybe a divorce or probate attorney so that the inheritance is properly kept as a separate asset and not commingled into marital property.”
YOU ARE NOT AN WALKING ATM
“Your husband and in-laws are attempting to capitalize on your mother’s death. Keep the inheritance and avoid the people who think you’re a walking ATM.”
DON’T COMBINE YOUR INHERITANCE
“Don’t combine your inheritance in a shared account with your spouse. Keep it separate so it remains your sole asset.”
YOU HANDLED IT PERFECTLY
“Your husband is stupid. Most likely, his family expected you to pay because he led them to that conclusion or didn’t correct them. You handled it perfectly.”
RETHINK OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP
“This is worrying and controlling. By not telling you that he expected you to pay, he was trying to manipulate you into paying. He sounds like he could be an abuser; if my partner did this to me, I’d seriously rethink the relationship.”
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Chhavi
Chhavi Agarwal is a lawyer who quit her job to become a full-time work-from-home blogger. She shares tips and tricks on making money online, side hustles, freelancing, and blogging through her blog, Mrs. Daaku Studio. She has been featured on Forbes, Business Insider, Peru Tribune, Kentucky Today and More. Byline: MSN, AP Wire, Newsbreak
never comingle money from an inheritance. talk to a financial advisor if u need to. keep in separate account.