Many men struggle to say no to other people’s demands and requests as they don’t want to appear selfish. They don’t realize that saying no respectfully is a much better way to maintain a healthy relationship. A user asked on the forum, “What do more men need to say “no” to?”
Here are some of the best responses.
BEING IN UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
“Being in relationships, they’re not comfortable in because it’s not that bad.”
“Growing up, my dad used to say; It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company.”
WHEN SOMEONE ASKS, HOW ARE YOU TODAY?
“The weird looks you get when someone asks “How are you today?” and your answer is “Not good.” Like, you asked, I gave you an answer. If you don’t like it, don’t ask questions you don’t know the answer to.”
PICKING UP THE PHONE AFTER WORK HOURS
“Nothing feels better than telling my manager at 10 am on my day off that I had a few bloody Marys with breakfast and can’t legally work, but I’m willing to come in if you just shoot me an email saying you permit me to work intoxicated.
I can’t remember the last time I drank a bloody Mary. Never got one of those emails either.”
WORKING MORE THAN 40 HOURS
“Working more than 40 hours a week when on salary. Go be with your family.”
“Can confirm, used to work 60-80 hours a week, missed Christmases and other holidays, kids remember, the job is long gone with nothing to show for it.”
THIRST TRAPS
“A couple of years ago, I unfollowed everyone on IG who I followed ONLY because they were hot. Has dramatically improved my social media experience.”
FORCED OVERTIME
“Forced overtime, refused PTO requests, unsafe working conditions, bad management or customers. I find a lot of reasons I should say no to things. It lands me in a lot of hot water at work.
But I’ll be damned if you think I will cancel my plans for the weekend or after work because you didn’t plan ahead properly. I’ll be damned if you think I’m missing a vacation to see my daughter again because you think my PTO request is actually a request. Stop trying to guilt me into working on a live circuit when turning it off and locking it out so I can work safely because “you need your internet to be on so you can work.” Cool, use a laptop and either hotspot your phone or use a proper UPS to power your router if it’s that critical.”
NICOTINE
“As someone who’s struggling to quit nicotine in my late 20s after dipping in my late teens and early 20s and vape now, kids and young adults need to stay away from vapes and those zyn pouches.
There’s nothing cool about it, and the small buzz you get from it is not worth being addicted to. Sitting on a 5-hour flight all irritable and stressed out, wanting a nicotine fix is not fun or cool, I promise. Not worth it at all.”
WOMEN WHO CHEAT
“A girlfriend of three years cheated on me six months ago with a dude from her work. They’re both mean people, so they deserve each other.”
FIGHTING
“Nobody wins in a fight. Both leave with either a hurt body or hurt feelings.”
“Men who lose in a fight can become enraged, and men who “win” carry the guilt of not holding back if they have some self-awareness, or they continue the toxic mindset of being “big and bad,” which hurts self-development.
There’s always someone bigger and badder out there. The only time I can say I support fighting is for self-defense.”
RELATIONSHIPS WHERE WOMEN DO NOT RESPECT THEM
In principle, you are correct. I specifically said women because most of us are pretty good at not accepting disrespect from people in general. The chink in our armor is usually intimate partners. For roughly 90% of us, that means women. A romantic or sexual relationship is not a license for disrespect or abuse.”
WIFE’S FRIEND’S KID’S BIRTHDAY PARTY
“I work all week. The last thing I want is to eat cold hotdogs with people I don’t know in the middle of my Saturday, knocking out any chance to do anything meaningful the rest of the day.”
MOVING STUFF WHEN YOUR BACK HURTS
“If it’s not something you do regularly as part of your job or workout, you should decline and ask for someone more skilled or qualified. Don’t let your ego take over and think, “I can’t let this person think I’m weak.” If you don’t think you can lift the thing, don’t do it.”
GIRLS BEGGING FOR MONEY ONLINE
” I can’t count how many times these girls ask me for ridiculous amounts of money on dating sites. Don’t even get me started on only fans. Men are so lame nowadays. Just say no!”
CASUAL MISANDRY
“Random sexual comments and gestures, particularly from women. When guys do it to girls, it’s sexual harassment, but when girls do it to guys, it’s fine, despite the implications, intentions, and actions being the same. Somethin’ ain’t right there.”
PEER PRESSURE
It’s not manly to do something detrimental to your health or well-being. Be firm and say no if you don’t feel comfortable. Remember, “no” is a complete sentence.”
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Anika Jindal
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